Updated: Jul 7, 2020
Quite often the conversations in our mind can be one-sided and abusive - just like those we would have with a neighborhood bully or a jealous friend. The words speaking to us in our mind can be as covert as quiet whispers to slowly diminish our confidence, or as loud as a Drill Sergeant shouting at us for our many shortcomings.
For a long time, I had a She-Bully dominating my mind. She was constantly speaking to me and altering how I viewed myself. This mental dialog did a lot to diminish my confidence daily and left little room to cultivate a strong love for the amazing person I was. Unfortunately, it took a long time for me to even notice the Bully was there. She had been there so long; I was not even aware of her voice. In my mind, her words were just Facts being called up to remind me of the Truth about who I was and who I could become.
Do you ever wonder what it would be like to have a Loving Friend inside your head, who offered compassionate loving thoughts to you rather than discouragement and insults? It begins with a willingness to look inside our mind with curiosity. We need to become aware of our thoughts, see our mind and witness the conversation. Then we can identify the default Bully speaking to us each day - those unintentional thoughts that create a negative backdrop to our thinking. This awareness can enable us to choose thoughts to cultivate a Loving Friend within us rather than the bully living there now.